Another weekend just about over. Yesterday it rained all day, but today was okay – not that I actually left the house on either day.
I usually at least go to basketball on the weekends, but Jericho had a friend stay over on Friday night and I wasn’t super comfortable leaving them at home without an adult on Saturday. I mean, they’re both in Year 7 and would have been totally fine, but it’s just that unpredictability of other people’s kids – I’d rather be here to keep an eye on them than not, and since Troy is quite capable of taking Soren to basketball there seemed more reason to stay home. Soren’s team lost, but only by a couple of points and Troy said they all played well. Soren said he had a good game and thought he did well too.
I did some knitting over the weekend. Unfortunately, not on the sweater that is weighing down my conscience! Jean had asked for another pair of ugly grandma slippers before they go away at the end of next month (I’m not actually sure why this requires slippers, now that I think about it) so I sat down and did that while watching tv. It’s so satisfying to do a quick project and actually finish something! Although I used two strands of 12 ply yarn which turned out to be a bit ridiculously thick and difficult to work with, so next time I might not be quite so enthusiastic.
Emma told Troy and I today that for her sixteenth birthday she wants to pierce her face. A labret piercing, which is the one below your bottom lip (it’s usually in the middle, although I don’t know if you she wants it to the side). She was very unhappy with us when we indicated that the answer was going to be a no, and she’ll have to wait until she’s eighteen and can just go and do whatever she wants.
It’s funny though, I always feel bad when I say no to something the kids want that I could say yes to, even when I think that the no is a justified answer! I personally don’t like labret piercings, but it’s not that – even if she wanted a nose or an eyebrow or something I don’t mind as much I’d still say no at this point. They’re not allowed to wear facial piercings at school and even though it seems to be a basically unfashionable stance, I think that parents should back up the school on the basic rules. I think it doesn’t do the kids any harm to learn that they don’t always get to do exactly what they want, and sometimes they have to follow rules that benefit the group as a whole and not them as individuals, even if they don’t particularly like it.
(This has come up in regards to uniform before, and “not being able to express myself” etc etc etc…I really would like them to see “who I am” as being internal, not reliant on external factors. Your personality isn’t, or shouldn’t be, dependent on your clothes or hair or piercings. Obviously I’m not against these things either – it’s fascinating to watch them develop their own feelings and opinions and tastes about these things, and I want them to feel good about themselves and look at different ways to do that. But equally I want them to know that who they are (and who other people are) comes from the inside and is not always reflected on the outside, and you shouldn’t judge. It’s obviously complicated.)
Anyway, if Emma got the piercing on her birthday it should be basically healed by the time she went back to school after Christmas holidays, but there’s a good chance taking it in and out and leaving it open for eight hours a day wouldn’t work well at that point. And if she had any problems with it I can absolutely guarantee that my squeamish self would not even be able to look at a hole in her face, let alone help her do anything about it. Besides, they can also damage your teeth and be bad for gum health, and quite frankly I’ve spent enough money on her teeth already. If she wants it when she’s eighteen and can take full responsibility for the whole thing and any consequences she can go ahead and I won’t say a word. But for now, it’s a no.
(Although, watch her just go and do it without our permission anyway…)