Tuesday 22 August 2017

I felt sick all day yesterday, so that was a bit of a write off really. Today was better, I felt okay in the morning and then I slept from lunch time until it was time to pick up the kids from school, which helped even more.

Emma had her first Ballarat orthodontist visit this morning. It was mostly an extremely lengthy lecture on her current bad dental hygiene, which was rather uncomfortable really. But I have to have some respect for the orthodontist being real about it- she did say to us that if Emma wasn’t going to do her part in keeping everything clean, we’d be better off taking off the braces now rather than leaving them on and ending up with decaying teeth underneath them.

Anyway, I think she scared Emma straight – she’s always been good with her teeth before. This has also led to us deciding we need a crack down on the boys’ teeth cleaning habits too, since they usually are in the bathroom together when they do it and therefore spend more time chatting than scrubbing.

This ties in to one of my current frustrations with my children, in that they all seem to be going through a lazy phase. Not only do they moan and groan about doing anything that they’re asked to, they are also doing a pretty half-assed job when they actually get around to doing whatever it is. (ie- bathroom, dishes, tidying kitchen, cleaning guinea pigs, homework assignments etc) I really hate nagging, but I think the only thing to do is supervise a lot more closely and make them redo it until they realise it’s better just to do it right the first time.

Somewhat related, but Troy and I have also had to sit down and discuss Nicholai’s subject choices for next year tonight, and it’s left me thinking that getting him through the next three years of school is going to be rough. His actual choices were quite good, in terms of range and interest, but he had picked them without any thought about what they will lead to and what he might want to do in the following years. He had also not selected any year 11 subjects, which is something the school encourages for year 10 students who can do the work, and I’m pretty sure Nicholai qualifies. He basically said he’s work-averse, and that’s why he didn’t want to do it. We explained to him that he’s going to have to do the work for this at some point, so he may as well spread it out over three years. I’m not sure that he’s really accepted the fact that if he is going to be able to do anything he wants to in his adult life, he’s going to have to knuckle down and put in the effort. And that’s not going to be fun, and it is going to cut into his busy schedule of listening to music and chatting online, but it’s also unavoidable!

Ugh. I don’t want them to struggle with the overwhelming anxiety of perfectionism like I did, but it would be nice if they were just slightly ambitious.

However, today was also lovely because we went out for dinner at the Tokyo Grill House, where they cook it all in front of you. We’ve never been, but everyone found something on the menu and then we all swapped so we could taste everything. It was great having six people, everyone ordered different things so we had two kinds of chicken, salmon, calamari, prawns, and beef to try, as well as the fried vegetables. I was so pleased that the kids all tried everything, and they actually really enjoyed the meal – it’s lovely as they get older and are more willing to try new things and accept new flavours. It was a really fun evening out – I love my family.